One of the drawbacks to being kind is being abused and treated like a doormat. It is a double edged sword especially when it is a conscious effort to always take the highroad. It is a challenge to our humanity when we seek personal improvement. We choose to be kind because it is right. We choose to be kind because we desire to respect others. But what happens when your kindness is repeatedly abused? We would always be found threatened of emotional bankruptcy and cornered against the walls of the wisdom we have learned. We would always be angry and feel betrayed. When then do we say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH?
Repeated abuse is not only done to you by an external party, it is also done to you by yourself. When the pain threatens to tear your soul apart, it is time to let go and be your own gatekeeper rather than stay and be someone else’s doormat.
One, CHOOSE HAPPINESS AND PEACE, especially when the abuser and abuse itself will not contribute to the successes of your other goals.
Secondly, KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE BALL, your vulnerability can make you lose focus on the HAPPINESS AND PEACE YOU SEEK
Third, if you need to, SPEAK YOUR MIND QUIETLY AND CLEARLY, this final statement serves both as closure and a reminder to yourself of why it is enough.
Laslty, BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF, it is time to nurse the wounds of that past and move one, grieve if you have to, backlash if you need to, but also set out the plan to your fulfillment, your goals and stick to it.
Remember that no one can make you feel like a victim unless you allow it, so it’s a choice, are you your own gatekeeper or a you someone else’s doormat.
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