I CAN

Whether life had been unfair to you or you have caused your own miseries, some things remain to be true.  Perhaps, if life had some valuable gifts for you, these would be the best of them all.  As no matter how many times circumstances or people fail you or no matter how many times you fail yourself,  these gifts are your safety measures. They are your lifeline to finding your joys and your path to your own happiness.

 You don’t need to be beaten in order to enjoy the gifts you have been endowed with.  Awakening, awareness and appreciation are enough to actualize or even rev up more of your happiness.

So, whether you are 24/7 happy or not, remember these gifts you have within…

One, YOU CAN STILL BE YOURSELF -  do you know that your nature, your qualities do not change in spite of undesired events in your life? At the end of the day, you are still the loving, caring, protective, nurturing, generous, funny, brilliant, competent, maybe even a hardworking individual your environment and caregivers have formed you to be.  This set of combined gifts  is the source of the inner spark within  each one of us If you had to retreat from the world, these are the very qualities that will stir your soul back to its path of glory.

Two, YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR WAY – many of your constructs were all borrowed. They have been handed down to you from generation to generation and by the culture and traditions we have grown up with.  Many of these construct thus has influenced the way we live, the way we decide, the way we choose. Sometimes, they become the noise in our heads and in our soul. Recognize that we can stop and recreate our own happier, healthier beliefs and even traditions.  

Three, That YOU CAN BE HAPPY – It is having the ability to find your inner spark and choosing new thoughts or new paradigms that shows you that you do have unending shots at being happy. One, realizing these gifts can tremendously  calm your mind and your soul. Secondly, it is with this calmness followed by inner laughter that second winds and the second chances you allow yourself  are found.

This is FRANCINE DE LAS ALAS, for I CAN SERIES by SOULSEARCH, for coaching on Happiness, you may call 0915-437-0179 or 434-3055

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SURRENDER

When you have gone through the self help list from A-Z and feel as if you are still reeling in the same issue, it can be exhausting emotionally and spiritually.  This is the time that you surrender to the higher Source the part of you that isn’t healing. You, of course still need to keep going through your A-Z list of happy tools, but there are times, it is okay to recognize that you can’t do it all by yourself.

First, STEP BACK - understand that it is alright to give yourself a couple of moments of maybe 10 or twenty minutes each time to just decompress when the soul’s needs get to burdensome to lift.

Second, PASS IT ON TO GOD  - it’s okay to say I’m tired and to ask Him to be the one to handle the comforting effortlessly. Sometimes, even processing mentally and emotionally can reach a dead-end for us. When that happens, just tell Him, it is His turn to pick you up.

Third, STOP - when you hear yourself going through the same broken record of unearthing what went wrong, or your unending why’s, recognize that these thoughts are bottomless pits and they’re noisy. Remember, only in silence and in surrender can you truly feel the presence and effortless comforting you need in these moments.

Forth, LET GO - let Him do the magic, no matter how short it is, always, it is enough to last, inspire and stir us to action even for a few hours.

Lastly, REPEAT – The Higher Source is free and forever accessible, so take advantage of this promo till it is no longer an effort to carry your own weight.

Remember, it is He who said, come to me those of you who are tired in carrying heavy loadsJ

This is FRANCINE DE LAS ALAS, for LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL SERIES by SOULSEARCH, for coaching on Happiness, you may call 0915-437-0179 or 434-3055

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FEELING GOOD

Are you overweight? When you are facing yourself in front of the mirror, do you enjoy seeing the bulges where they should not be? Do you  repeatedly wish that your were more fit, slimmer and even sexier? Do you sometimes wish too that could wear the clothes that you want but can’t.  Sometimes, you need to ask yourself these hard questions. When the answers do not feel good. It is time to move yourself to a drop dead gorgeous plan! Whether you are a man or a woman, letting yourself go is not an excuse.

Watching your girth instead of the weighing scale is the best motivator of all. You see the results right away and encourages you to keep moving on to the next inches. When starting your diet, hold the exercise or the gym till you reach your acceptable size and weight. Often times, exercising while you are still battling your excess weight can turn undesired mass to muscles thus keeping you further away from your slimming goal.

In dieting, you don’t have to deprive yourself. Working around your eating habits or behavior is an effective starting point. An ambitious diet plan can often times fail.

1.      First, go for low calorie diet- Reduce the calorie by a forth of your usual intake. Count every calorie portions for the meals you take.  Learn to read labels and surf calorie count in the net for minimum portions of meats or veggies you may eat.

2.      Next, low carb diet – choose between low calorie carbs that are also filling. A piece of bread, especially wheat bread has lower calories compared to  a ½ cup of rice.

3.      Take 5 to 6 small low cal-low carb meals every 2 to 3 hours rather than your usual heaping meals.

4.      Drink a glass of  cold water before each meal. Cold more satisfying than room temperature water and can put off the hunger.

5.      Wait 10 minutes before helping yourself to a second serving, food expands within this time.

6.      Since it is essentially a no deprivation diet, add more flavorful vegetables to your meals while taking into consideration the calories that go with each flavor.

7.      Break down your timelines, targets and objectives into measurable and doable timeframes. The key is balancing your expectations alongside your habits.

When you like how you look, you have a large leeway for feeling good, and feeling good from within is one of the starting points of genuine happiness.

This is FRANCINE DE LAS ALAS, for LIFE IS GOOD SERIES by SOULSEARCH, for coaching on Happiness, you may call 0915-437-0179 or 434-3055

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Make Money

Before you can begin to manage your wealth, you must first have wealth to manage. You need to beat  that cycle of poverty and speed up your prosperity. Money is peace of mind. It can’t get any clearer than that.

There are tens and thousands of ideas that you can find in the net and  ideas that you can get from your friends to begin growing your wealth. While many of us are afraid to go out of our comfort zones and fear the idea of selling something, all income begins from this point.  Even applying for jobs entails selling yourself as a beneficial product to any company you hope to work for.

So, begin with the end in mind. Grow your wealth first.  Set out reasonable income targets and choose your paths. Starting small is key. You need to maximize your existing resources. Here are some traditional  ideas you can consider to build your wealth from.

1.     Real Estate - the real estate industry is a booming market, scout for the best real estate developer with exceptional commission and investment plans. Who knows, one day, you could have your own unit for free! I know of some individuals who have started as brokers and now have units of their own earned from their commission. The amazing part of this is how they have doubled their income from a single source.

2.     Insurance – this is another great way to earn a passive income. Be an agent.  There are reputable companies that offer mutual fund product lines. Conversely, do your own homework. Go out, inquire, learn and  compare the potential income so you can get the best deals from your own efforts.  

3.     Multi-Level Marketing – this is a one stop shop of learning to run your own business. It teaches you to manage, leverage and strategize. The income you can get here can potentially triple your

your cash flow. If a security guard or a janitor can earn Php1M, so can  you.

These are just some ideas we can kick around. For the next segment, tune in for more bright money making ideas.

This is FRANCINE DE LAS ALAS, for I AM ABUNDANT SERIES by SOULSEARCH, for coaching on Happiness, you may call 0915-437-0179 or 434-3055

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ON NOT BEING A DOORMAT

One of the drawbacks to being kind is being abused and treated like a doormat. It is a double edged sword especially  when it is a conscious effort to always take the highroad. It is a challenge to our humanity when we seek personal improvement. We choose to be kind because it is right. We choose to be kind because we desire to respect others. But what happens when your kindness is repeatedly abused? We would always be found threatened of emotional bankruptcy and cornered against the walls of the wisdom we have learned. We would always be angry and feel betrayed. When then do we say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH?

Repeated abuse is not only done to you by an external party, it is also done to you by yourself. When the pain threatens to tear your soul apart, it is time to let go and be your own gatekeeper rather than stay and be someone else’s doormat.

One, CHOOSE HAPPINESS AND PEACE, especially when the abuser and abuse itself will not contribute to the successes of your other goals.

Secondly, KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE BALL, your vulnerability can make you lose focus on the HAPPINESS AND PEACE YOU SEEK

Third, if you need to, SPEAK YOUR MIND QUIETLY AND CLEARLY, this final statement serves both as closure and a reminder to yourself of why it is enough.

Laslty, BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF, it is time to nurse the wounds of that past and move one, grieve if you have to, backlash if you need to, but also set out the plan to your fulfillment, your goals and stick to it.

Remember that no one can make you feel like a victim unless you allow it, so it’s a choice, are you your own gatekeeper or a you someone else’s  doormat.

This is FRANCINE DE LAS ALAS, for LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL SERIES by SOULSEARCH, for coaching on Happiness, you may call +63915-437-0179 or +632-434-3055

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